Do you attract people to you like a magnet? If not, how can you do it? First I’m going to reveal the secret to you and then I’m going to give you some context to think about.
The secret – Be The MOST POSITIVE Person YOU KNOW
THINK ABOUT THIS - Have you ever noticed how you are just drawn to some people? When they walk in the room, you just can’t stop staring at them. You want to be around them, you hope they will notice you and just give you some little sign, no matter how small, that they notice you…you may even seek their approval. WHY? What is it they possess that makes them so intriguing, inspiring, attractive or appealing? The truth is, you have the EXACT same qualities as them. If YOU spot it, YOU’VE got it! You can only admire a quality in another person if you also have that quality – so that’s the good news.
Now the not so good news, most people have no clue that they have qualities, talents and gifts that others find attractive. Most of us like playing things down, you know, keeping a lid on it would rather shrink instead of SHINE. After coaching people for many years, here’s one thing I’ve noticed; there are so many of us that would never ever even dream of admitting to ourselves, let alone others, that we are incredible, awesome, amazing, intelligent, inspirational and the list goes on. In fact, I find it so crazy that so many people actually feel like publicly acknowledging their strengths is a negative quality. For whatever reason, we can tell ourselves that letting people know what we’re great at is equivalent to bragging, showing off or being cocky. I’ve met people where I couldn’t find their strengths with a search warrant. They are so hell bent on PLAYING SMALL, that finding their strengths is an exhaustive hunt that feels like trying to find the Da Vinci Code!
NEWSFLASH – There are things you can do that no one else in the world can do. There is something that you are THE BEST in the world at!
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If you want to be a player, you’ve got to get on the ground, and without rapport you’re just a spectator sitting in the stands. We often hear the term ‘rapport building’ but what does it mean and how do we build it? I love this explanation on Wiki:
Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being “in sync” with, or being “on the same wavelength” as the person with whom you are talking.
My personal definition is, “any conscious or unconscious action that builds a connection with another person”. You can have the best ideas, the greatest passion, be an elite leader or own the most mind blowing, value adding product or service on the planet BUT if you cannot build rapport with people, it counts for NOTHING! People buy and invest in PEOPLE…not products. By the way, you do not have to be face-to-face with another person to build rapport.
ASK YOURSELF – How do you feel walking into a party, a seminar or even a meeting when you do not know anyone there? Do you feel self conscious, awkward, dread, nervous, annoyed that you have to be there, expect that it will be tough or have you already spent some time crafting an intricate and water tight reason (escape plan) about why you have to leave early? If you have any of these feelings, I have to tell you…
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Anyone who knows me knows, I AM a massive believer in choosing to have a CHAMPION MINDSET. If you want to be the best, you have to think the best. When you have a strong, positive and optimistic mindset you are IN CONTROL. You become Teflon to any adverse conditions around you and it’s so easy to automatically see the good in things instead of defaulting to seeing the bad. One of my old school friends, Paul Kolanowicz, just sent me this story about the recession and I just had share it with you. Choose good over bad, choose awesome over awful and choose STEP UP over step back.
What is Recession?
This story is about a man who once upon a time was selling Hot dogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers. He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio. His eyes were weak, so he never watched television. But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hot dogs. He was smart enough to offer some attractive schemes to increase his sales. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more a more raw material and buns and sold more. He recruited more supporting staff to serve more customers. He started offering home deliveries. Eventually he got himself a bigger and better stove. As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from college, joined his father. Then something strange happened. The son asked, “Dad, aren’t you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?” The father replied, “No, but tell me about it.” The son said, “The international situation is terrible. The domestic situation is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad times.” The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, listened to the radio and watched TV. He ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly. So the next day onwards, the father cut down the his raw material order and buns, took down the colorful signboard, removed all the special schemes he was offering to the customers and was no longer as enthusiastic. He reduced his staff strength by giving layoffs. Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his Hot dog stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly and so did the profit. The father said to his son, “Son, you were right”. “We are in the middle of a recession and crisis. I am glad you warned me ahead of time.”
Moral of the Story: It’s all in your MIND! And we actually FUEL this recession much more than we think.
Source: Unknown (if you know the source please let me know so I can give credit to the rightful person).
